Brandon and Jerry continue the discussion with author and pastor, Mike Bullock, on the best explanation of love in a world that has cheapened the word.
What is Love – Baby Don’t Hurt Me?
You may have heard the 1993 hit song “What is Love?” by Haddaway. The lyrics open like this.
What is love?
Baby don’t hurt me
Don’t hurt me
The majority of the song repeats combinations of that phrase. It is a dance tune after all. Mike shares how our world seems to have cheapened the word “love.” We use it to describe a food we like, “I love pizza!” We use it to describe our excitement over things like a new car, new computer, jewelry, etc.
Focusing on the use of the word love probably has led to the best explanation of love we’ve ever heard.
If love can be attached to meaningless, discardable things in our lives, what does that plant in our hearts and minds about discarding our closest relationships? Shouldn’t the definition of love in marriage be a much deeper one? The vows used in marriage often include phrases like the following:
- In sickness and in health
- For better or worse
- Richer or poorer
Love accepts both the good and the bad in a life lived out together as one.
What is the Best Explanation of Love – A Concept of Love Essay
Reading what is love explained through The Missing Ingredient: Home-Cooked Relationships in a Fast-Food World provides one of the best explanations of love.
Are you stuck in a rut with your own marriage? Unless there is abuse happening, it may not be time to throw in the towel.
How Do You Define Love?
The what is love answer is not so much about what you are getting out of the relationship, but what you are pouring into it. The grass is always greener where you water it. When you sacrificially and lovingly pour into your spouse, watch how she responds. It may surprise you.
Change won’t happen overnight. There will be resistance even. Your marriage didn’t get into a rut in one night. It took time and effort to neglect each other, to put up barriers that weren’t there in the beginning.
That’s probably the best explanation of love we can give here without giving away the gold that is in this week’s podcast episode.
Download that episode now and listen to it on your way home from work today.
About Mike Bullock
Mike Bullock is a devoted husband to his beautiful wife, Angie, and father to their amazing son, Zach. An imagineer at heart, he loves using his international award-winning material to provide creative learning programs to countless schools and public libraries. In his free time, he’s led and taught numerous groups, from young children to teenagers and adults. His own childhood wounds have driven him to passionately seek the protection and edification of the family unit.
Links and Resources
Listen to Part 1 of this conversation at BeyondTheRut.com/171.
Listen to The Magic Ratio for Happy Healthy Marriages, BtR 015
Listen to Jim Sheils Shares How to Succeed as an Entrepreneur at Home, BtR 156
Buy a copy of Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs by Emerson Eggerichs
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