Fatherhood can be a daunting task. For new fathers, the journey can seem overwhelming, and sometimes it’s hard to know where to start. That’s why I’ve put together this list of 8 tips for new fathers! These tips will help you navigate your way through fatherhood and become the best dad possible for your child. Read on for advice on how to respect the mother of your child, spend time with your child, show them love, and more!
Respect Your Child’s Mother
One of the best things you can do for your children is to respect their mother. This shows them that you are on the same team when it comes to raising them and helps set a good example for sons and daughters about how to treat women. Additionally, conveying a sense of respect for the child’s mother will help create a feeling of security in your children that they are cared for, loved, and have a solid foundation.
Of course, this isn’t always easy – especially if both parents have different approaches to parenting or if the parents are no longer in a committed relationship. However, making an effort to show respect for the mother of your children will go a long way in helping them grow up happy and healthy. Here are a few ideas of how you can do this:
- Talk to her about your parenting style and try to come to a consensus about the best way to raise your children.
- Make an effort to spend time with your children, even if it’s just a few minutes each day.
- Show them physical affection, such as hugs, kisses, and cuddles.
- Tell them often that you love them.
- Be there for them when they need you – whether they’re experiencing a joyous moment or going through a tough time.
By following these tips, you’ll be well on your way to becoming the best father possible! Do you have any other tips for new fathers? Share them with us in the Comments section.
For new fathers who are also newly married, check out this episode with Joe Pomeroy as we talk about using a SWOT analysis to measure and create a healthy marriage.
Be the Father Your Children Need
Your children will always be watching you. They are smarter than we think. Actions speak louder than words, and they want to see that our actions align with our words.
Speaking with respect, striving to be better every day, and following through on promises all teach our children positive behaviors to instill in themselves.
When we model the behavior that we hope they display, it not only sets them up for success but also creates a bond between us that is unbreakable.
The Importance of Fathers in a Child’s Life by Pediatric Associates of Franklin
The Key to Setting a Good Example as a Father from The Good Men Project
Be Authentic and Vulnerable
Being authentic means being honest about your thoughts and feelings, sharing your own experiences (good and bad), and being open to hearing theirs. It also means being vulnerable – letting them see you as a person, not just a dad.
Allowing yourself to be vulnerable in front of your children shows them that it’s okay to express their emotions and that they can come to you with anything on their minds. It builds trust between you and creates a deeper connection. Plus, it sets a good example for healthy communication in relationships.
So go ahead and let your guard down – your children will appreciate it!
Do You Have What It Takes to Be a Good Father?
Becoming a father is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make. It’s a big responsibility, but it’s also an incredible opportunity to share your life with another human being and watch them grow up.
Ask yourself these questions along your fatherhood journey:
- Are you ready to be emotionally and financially responsible for another person?
- Do you have a strong support system in place?
- Are you prepared to make sacrifices for your child?
- Do you have patience and understanding?
- Do you want what’s best for your child, even if it means making tough choices?
If you answered yes to these questions, then congratulations – you have what it takes to be a great father! This is not meant to discourage new fathers. The hope is that you have a guide now as you pursue that path of being a good dad.
Keep reading. We’re not done yet.
Listen to this interview with Ben Killoy from the Dad Coming Home podcast who shares tips to military dads about being engaged in the lives of their children.
Have Patience and Grace
Have patience and grace with your children. They will make mistakes – we all do. It’s part of being human. What’s important in fatherhood is that you help them learn from their mistakes and grow into responsible adults.
This doesn’t mean that you should let them get away with everything, but it does mean that you should try to see things from their perspective and give them the benefit of the doubt whenever possible. After all, they’re still learning about life just like we are.
So next time your child makes a mistake, take a deep breath and remember to show them some patience and grace. They’ll appreciate it – and so will you!
I’ve heard a lot of great things about Grace-Based Parenting by Tim Kimmel and Max Lucado that takes a Christian view of applying grace to raise children from a position of love rather than fear and punishment.
Love is Spelled T-I-M-E, Play with Your Child
Playing with your child is a great way to bond with them, and it also provides an opportunity to teach social boundaries, respect, and conflict management. Playing with your child will also create memories for you that you will cherish for the rest of your life.
So what are you waiting for? Get out there and start playing! Your children – and YOU – will be glad you did.
Activities you can do with babies
- Play with expressions
- Mirror games
- Listen to music together
- Read stories to your baby
Activities you can do with children
- Coloring or other arts & crafts
- Campout in the living room
- Build a blanket fort
- Go outside and build a real fort
- Bicycle around a park or neighborhood
- Geocaching – take turns navigating if they’re old enough
Read to Your Children
Reading out loud to your child is another great way to bond. It also provides an opportunity to teach new words, improve listening skills, and foster a love of learning. Reading to your child will also create memories for you that you will cherish for the rest of your life.
Here are some tips to make the most out of the reading experience.
- Take turns reading pages
- Let go of feeling embarrassed that you think you’re not a strong reader
- Make it interactive by pausing to let them predict what will happen next
- Ask questions about the story as you read to encourage critical thinking
- Don’t worry if they lose interest – just keep reading and they may come back around!
- Find books that are appropriate for their age and interests. If they’re into dinosaurs, find a book about dinosaurs! If they like dogs, find a book about dogs! You get the idea…
What reading tips would you share with us? Comment below.
Let Your Kids Tag Along
Remember that “Love” is spelled T-I-M-E.
Do you enjoy hiking, fishing, or working on cars? Every child is different. Some will want to be hands-on and work alongside you. Others would rather watch you, or simply be in the same room, while you do your thing.
The point here is not that you’re passing your hobby from father to child like some Jedi-to-apprentice relationship. It’s all about time, spending as large of a quantity of time with your child as possible so that the end result is a lot of high-quality moments of time build up.
Before you know it, your children will be on their own as adults making a life for themselves. When I was in your shoes 20 years ago, I chuckled whenever some “old man” told me the years go by quickly. I’m now that “old man” who just became an empty nester this past year. I miss my babies, and I cherish that I spent as much time as I could to be around them. Those babies are young adults now.
Take Time from Work for Their Activities
Children will grow up needing their fathers to show you are there for them. That includes the things we may think are not important compared to what our boss at work thinks is important.
New fathers, you will have a chance to build one of two types of memories with your children. One memory is of a father who was never there at any school awards ceremonies, games, or presentations. Another memory is of a father who was always there no matter how big or small the event was.
The event does not matter. Communicating that your child is important to you by being present matters. The message we can send our children is that they are more important than a paycheck.
Plan to be there
- Make a schedule and try to stick to it
- Take time off from work
- Be present at their events
- Listen to them when they talk to you
By following these tips, you’ll be well on your way to becoming the best father possible!
Do you have any other tips for new fathers? Share them with us in the comments below.